Imagine your heart as a house.
Now imagine your boundaries as the fence you’ve put up, that gate with the latch that opens into your garden. Imagine them as your hard oak front door, the pretty glass windows decorating your house.
There are some people who you open the gate to, who you allow into your house with you. These are safe people. And there are others who you should meet at the gate, some who shouldn’t even be able to find the house where you reside; these are unsafe people.
Safe people are those who:
- "Listen to you"
- "Accept the real you"
- "Are authentic with you"
- "Have appropriate and clear boundaries":
- "Supportive and Loyal"
Those who do the opposite, are unsafe people, people we should be careful around, those we should not allow into our hearts and houses.
The most incredible thing about learning about your boundaries, is that as soon as you decide to start observing them, you will sense and see possible invasions.
Happy Boundary Setting!
My source: Whitfield, Charles . Boundaries and Relationships: Knowing, Protecting and Enjoying the Self